Saturday, September 1, 2012

1.Marriage through Matrimony Site/ Newspaper Advt ? --- say -- Never. Why ?




1.Marriage through Matrimony Site/ Newspaper Advt ? --- say -- Never. Why ? 

In and around Kolkata 70% of the marriages arranged through newspaper advt, are facing break down within 1 year. Wife lodges criminal cases under 498A. Police arrest the entire family of husband. Finally compromise is done for Rs 10 to 25 lakhs for withdrawing the case. If the marriage is not properly matched the entire family is affected. Many people are victim. 

If you are an unfortunate husband or his family member (like me), you will suffer the following cases by the wife. 

1. Section 498A of the IPC (arrest of entire husband-family, without bail) 
2. Domestic Violence Act 2005 (against male in-laws with maintenance and residence) 
3. Section 125 of Cr PC (endless maintenance) 
4. Civil suit with maintenance. (All the 4 cases may go simultaneously.) 
Therefore follow the following suggestion. 

GUIDELINES FOR ARRANGING MARRIAGE 

1. Avoid arranging marriage through Matrimony Site/ Newspaper advt, because a marriage without negotiation by responsible third party is risky. 

2. Avoid arranging marriage through marriage negotiation agency / bureau, because they do not take any responsibility (third party) of post-marital adjustment or problems. 

3. Marriage with unknown family, without social link is dangerously risky. 

4. Prefer arranging marriage through traditional matchmaker (ghatok). He is responsible to both the parties. His role is crucial in adjusting two families. 

5. Marriage within your distant relatives or wellknown family is less risky. Because, other relatives will take responsibility in time of problem/ crisis. 

6. Both groom and bride should be same political party. It is more important than caste. Arrange it only through responsible Third Party (ghatok). 

I am not against women. They also suffer a lot. So think about the suggestions and forward.


2.A Humanitarian Appeal 

The Indian government has been enacting peculiar and peculiar laws which are in contradiction with the Natural Justice. Many such laws are also contradictory with the existing laws and the legal system of the country. Find below a list of such inhumanitarian and irrational laws. 

1. Section 498A of Indian Penal Code (arrest of entire husband-family, without bail) 
2. Domestic Violence Act 2005 (against male in-laws with maintenance and residence) 
3. Section 125 of Cr PC (endless maintenance) 
(Wife may lodge all the 3 cases simultaneously. 
4. TADA, POTA, etc. 

Under section 498A the police arrest the entire family of husband without any cognizable (visible) evidence of crime. Husband-wife dispute is jurisdiction of Civil Court across the civilised world. Even women (myself) are also sufferer of these un-social Laws. 

In no other civilized country the state authority has converted familial (civil) disputes into cognizable crime and subject to police action. Such a law is result of irresponsible legislation of the state authority. 

Even Folk Laws of Tribal community or Muslim Shariyat Law (with due respect) is far less cruel than the modern secular law of India. 

Now marriage has become risky. Many women (in WB) ruined and destroyed their Husband by misuse of Section 498A. If any problem they are making full use of laws. 

As the former Chief Justice KG Balakrishnan has apprehended that in future there may occurr a revolution against the legal and judicial system of the country. 


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Posted By : pritha ghosh Professional Aid at NGO Consulting

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